“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
Hey guys! As promised I came back this afternoon to post my review on the WONDERFUL book The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown. Lets start with a little bit of background on what made me want to read this book so much. A month or so back, I texted my amazing sister in law because I had suddenly hit a hard spot with my passion for photography. I was at the point where I would rather sell my camera than hold it. I did not in any way feel like I was worthy of this passion, simply because my ex-husband was the entire reason I had that camera. In 2010, my passion for photography really began and I wanted so badly to have a better camera than the one I had. On our one year anniversary in 2011, the first real gift he ever got me was my Canon camera. I was in love with the camera and it literally never left my side. Then he decided that being together after five years was no longer something he wanted and he left. In 2017, I signed the remaining pages for our divorce and started a new life.
Now before you start wondering why this became a huge post about my ex-husband, I want you to know that I moved on from the situation. I have forgiven what needed to be forgiven, but in the same way, I haven’t been able to let go of some things. I thought by putting down my camera and turning my back to this photography passion that I would finally be free of him. I was wrong and late one night, it slapped me hard in the face. I wanted my passion back. I wanted to pick up my camera and feel like I was worthy of calling myself a photographer. I wanted to take pictures of my sons, nature, friends, and family and know that this was part of who I was supposed to be. I wanted to embrace that part of me and not hide it away just because someone from my past helped make it come alive.
My sister in law suggested this book and surprised me with it as her gift to me for Mother’s Day. This book made me feel so many emotions and it personally made me feel attacked which is EXACTLY what I needed. I needed a wake up call and Brené’s words gave me that with every chapter. I have always struggled with hiding the parts of me that I didn’t believe the world would find pretty and this book helped me realize I needed to embrace all parts of me. I needed to love myself more than I worried about others loving me. She helped me understand that squandering my gift for photography and even writing, brings distress to my life. The main reason I felt so empty, resentful, and ashamed was my own fault because I was ignoring my talent.
Please, if you are looking for a self-help/emotional-health book to read, get this one. It’s worth it entirely. I am blessed to have a sister in law like the one I have. She helped open my eyes to a whole new world. When I finished the last sentence of this book, I felt renewed. I felt like the weight of these emotions I was feeling was gone. I see through a whole new lense now. My goal is to live a wholehearted life, because I deserve to.
“Yes I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.”
Amazon Link: https://www.amazon.com/Gifts-Imperfection-Think-Supposed-Embrace/dp/159285849X/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1559159406&sr=8-3
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